Is there anyone else out there that struggles with insecurities? They can stop you from living the life Christ would have you live, because everytime you step out of your comfort zone it is scary. Just as the picture of the flower coming up in the concrete is impossible but in the crack there is always some dirt and just enough for the seed to germinate and not only did it sprout but it bloomed, as children of God we also can bloom despite where we are.
People who know me but don’t “Really Know Me” think that I’m this secure, put together person, with a bubbly personality and super friendly. I reach out to others all the time and am always willing to help even if it’s not convient for me or adds one more thing to my already busy schedule. But inside sometimes (not all the time) I feel like a mess. I have these ridiculious conversations with myself (and unfortunately they slip out my mouth sometimes) that go something like this:
- Did you see how that person no matter how much you reach out to them doesn’t ever bother to reach out to you?
- You know they really don’t like you, they are just tolerating you cause that’s the nice Christian thing to do.
- Why do complete strangers seem nicer to you than some people you attend church with?
And actually the degrading conversations sometimes go on and in more depth than what I just shared. BUT even though I have those moments I choose to NOT live there. Here are at least 2 verses I run to when the negative, insecure thoughts start to plague me.
2 Corinthians 10:5 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
5 We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ
Philippians 4:4-9 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
4 Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice! 5 Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is [a]near. 6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all [b]comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is [c]lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, [d]dwell on these things. 9 The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.
Taking EVERY thought captive to the obedience of Christ….It takes training, you have to force yourself when you are having an insecure moment to TAKE YOUR THOUGHTS CAPTIVE, then you need to think on everything that is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, good, excellent, worthy of praise and then DWELL on them. And you know what? It works the Peace of God will be with you. All of a sudden you are not listening to that voice telling you that the room full of women hate you, and they don’t care if you are there or not. Suddenly you have willpower and courage to do what God has called you to do. For each of us that may look different but you will never get there if you continue to listen to that voice of insecurity.
I saw this quote and think it is so true unfortunately
“Sometimes our thoughts are backed by so much insecurity, that they create lies we believe”
Fortunately for me I have a strong relationship with Christ and a loving godly husband that when I share some of my silly thoughts he reminds me of the lies they are and 2 amazing daughters and close friends who are great at loving me and encouaging me to NOT listen to those lies as well.
I also know when they are from insecurites and have learned to not believe them. For women it is not easy navigating life, we have so many expectations put on us. What I try to do everytime I am feeling insecure and if it has to do directly with someone and how they have treated me or not, I put myself in their shoes and give them grace, maybe they are having a bad day or didn’t see me or hear me to say hi or whatever it is. I strive to continue to live my life out to and for the Audiance of One all the while being very aware of my surroundings and yet not allowing situations or circumstances to define who I am.
I am a child of The King, He saved me, Loves me, Disciplines me and ALWAYS brings conviction for my good to honor Him in all things.
So ladies lets NOT allow our insecurities to stop us from being all we can be In Christ!!!
Love, your fellow sister in Christ